Tim Tseng

I'm Pastor of English Ministry at Canaan Taiwanese Christian Church (San Jose, CA), independent scholar and theological educator.
Tim Tseng has written 278 posts for Canaan English Ministry

Sermon Summary • Jan 8, 2017

Mark 1:9-15 • Pastor Chris Liu 

Certain athletes are very particular in how they prepare themselves before a game. They will go through a certain routine that helps them focus on the task ahead of them. Jesus, at the start of His ministry, chose to do a couple of things to help Him prepare for His ministry here on earth.

The very first thing Jesus did was to get baptized. Jesus did not have to get baptized, but He chose to do it for a couple of reasons. First, He wanted to affirm the message that John the Baptist was preaching. John was proclaiming that Jesus was the Messiah and Jesus agreed that He was The One. His baptism was a public announcement of who He was. The second reason Jesus got baptized was to show that God also affirmed His calling and that He was empowered by the Holy Spirit. It wasn’t that Jesus didn’t have the Holy Spirit in Him already, but it was an audial and visual affirmation. A third reason for his baptism was to connect with us as humans. He was setting the example of what we should do when we turn our lives over to God. Jesus was relating to us as humans.

The second thing that Jesus did was to go into the wilderness to prepare His heart and mind for the task ahead. Jesus knew that this ministry was going to be difficult. He knew that people would not understand Him, that people will reject Him, and that ultimately, He would have to suffer and die. He went away by Himself to prepare Himself.

While He was there, the devil appeared to tempt Him and try and take Him off course. In the other gospel books, we see the devil tempt Him in 3 different ways. However, Mark, focuses on the 40 days instead of giving specific examples. I believe that it was a constant temptation that Jesus had to endure. However, Jesus was able to overcome those temptations and angels came to minister to Him.

In the same way, whenever God calls us to serve Him, the devil may also show up to try and tempt us and take us off course. He will try to lie to us and get us to doubt our calling, but with the power of the Holy Spirit, we can resit temptation and do the things that God has called us to do. Know that whatever God is calling you to do, that He will give you the means to do it.

Finally, Jesus starts His ministry and calls people to “repent and believe in the gospel.” For those of you who have not yet given your life over to Christ, I urge you to repent and believe in the Good News that God has died for your sins. For those who have committed your lives to Christ, I urge you to be baptized (if you have not already done so) and to be true disciples who are growing and serving God in whatever He is calling you to do.

Sermon summary (Jan 1, 2017)

Happy New Year everyone! We are starting a new sermon series and approach this year. Our theme is disciple-making. We’re be looking at the life and ministry of Jesus in the Gospel of Mark as our model of being and making disciples. Each Sunday – until Advent – we will preach through a passage from Mark. Please preview each Sunday’s verses and let Pastors Chris or me know if you have any questions, illustrations, or ideas for our sermons.

Mark 1:1-8 • January 1, 2017
Tim Tseng

If I could re-preach last Sunday’s message, here is what I would say:

1. The bad news. We live in the wilderness of doomed quests. Whether it is a quest for God without the church (the individualist), the quest for community without God (the socially dependent), or the quest for church leadership without spiritual maturity (the power hungry), all our quests will lead to failure. This is what Israel discovered in their failure to enter the Promised Land and during the Babylonian Captivity. Ultimately, their quests led to idolatry (worshiping anything other than God), disobedience, and its consequence.

2. The good news. Scripture shows us that life isn’t about our quests anyway. It’s about God’s quest for us. Mark 1:2-3 are quotes from Malachi 3:1 and Isaiah 40:4, which promises that a voice in the wilderness, a messenger, will announce that God is coming to his people directly. John the Baptist is calling out to us – requesting that we stop our personal quests – and turn our attention to God, who is looking for us and coming to us. Though John dressed and lived like the prophet Elijah, we ought to resist the temptation to ignore him. Rather, let us pay closer attention to his message!

3. The greater news. God not only seeks us, but he invites us to a new quest. John urges the people of Israel to receive the baptism of repentance for the forgiveness of sins in the Jordan River. Just as Israel entered the Promised Land by crossing the Jordan, we too can join God’s quest. Repentance is turning away from doomed quests in the wilderness. Forgiveness happens when God overlooks idolatry and sin so we can freely join his people into the new Promised Land.

4. The best news. We can join Jesus’ spiritual conquest over the powers of sin and evil in this world. John was not the Messiah, but he points to Jesus, whose Hebrew name is Joshua. The new Joshua will provide the baptism of the Holy Spirit. And he will, as we shall see, reconquer fallen creation by driving out demonic forces, healing the sick, and bringing in the Kingdom of God. We are invited to join his team and his quest. And the kicker is this: when we join Jesus’ conquest team, we will at last find our true quest in life! Will you join? Will you re-commit your life to Jesus and his quest?

Sermon Summary: God is Holy (Oct 9, 2016)

Last Sunday’s Sermon Summary • God is Holy (Psalm 99)
Tim Tseng • October 9, 2016

1. The typical narratives about the Christian God:

Either an angry God who can’t stand the sight of us or a Teddy Bear God who doesn’t judge or care about what we do. Both of these narratives are extreme.

Most of the times we think of Jesus as always gentle and loving. But, this is also not entirely true. Jesus also speaks of wrath, judgment, and condemnation (see John 3:36; 5:28-29; Matthew 12:36-37; 16:27).

2. A wrathful God, properly understood, can be a good thing.

As mid-twentieth century theologian H. Richard Niebuhr (Yale) once wrote: “a God without wrath brought men without sin into a kingdom without judgment through the ministrations of a Christ without a Cross.”

But let’s not misunderstand: God’s anger and wrath is NOT what is essential about God. They are attributes – not essential to God’s nature. Love and Holiness are essential to who God is. And if God is essentially love and holiness, this helps us get a clearer understanding of God’s wrath.

It helps to distinguish “passions” and “pathos.” Passions are emotions that wax and wanes, feelings that infatuated young lovers have. Wrath, if seen as a passion, would be like a reckless fit of rage by someone has lost all reason and control. But that’s not God’s wrath. In the bible, God’s wrath is like “pathos” – a deep, consistent opposition to sin and evil, motivated by a desire for the good of his people. It is a determination to make things right. A holy God has a pathos for what is good and just for his creation.

3. God is Holy. In Psalm 99, we get a good picture of God’s holiness:

— A holy God is exalted over all the nations (verses 1-3). God is ruler of all the nations and creation, not just Israel’s God. Only an exalted God can judge all people.

— A holy God is a king who loves justice, equity, and righteousness (4-5). If God’s holiness means that he loves justice and equity, what does that mean for us?

— A holy God has a parent-like relationship with his people (6-9). He listens to and speaks to his people, he provides standards, sets direction, and metes out punishment yet forgives. A holy God is like a parent who raises her children with deep care.

4. The Impact of God’s Holiness:

To believers, God is a consuming fire. He loves us so much that he longs for us to be pure. He works tirelessly to make us pure. God is against sin and therefore for humans. God is against sin because he is for me, because sin destroys. Therefore, God is not indifferent to sin and THAT IS GOOD. God doesn’t make me feel bad or shame me, not does he use guilt or fear. His method of changing us is through his holy love that burns the dross of sin out of our lives. His Spirit awakens an awareness within us to repent and change. So we don’t really want a God who doesn’t care.

God’s holiness necessitates hell for those who choose to reject him. C.S. Lewis said that it is not a question of God sending us to hell. In each of us there is a wall that separates us from God and this wall grows taller as we make decisions to reject him and his love. In other words, people who choose a life unshaped by God’s love and purpose will drink judgment upon themselves – that is what hell is.

5. Soul-training: Creating Margins [“setting apart” life for God]

  • Get up ten minutes earlier, create a space for silence before you begin your day.
  • Cut out unnecessary entertainment activities.
  • Scale back some of your commitments – what are essential?
  • Reduce some activities that you do too frequently – e.g., family visits and celebrations, hanging out with certain friends – without cutting off relationships.

Sermon Summary: God is Love (Oct 2, 2016)

Sermon Summary • God is Love (Matthew 9:9-13)
Tim Tseng • October 2, 2016

Would you invite these people to your home? Drug addict? Drug dealer? Ex-Con? Goth kid? Probably not. We worry that these “bad people” will be bad influences. They are not safe and we want to protect ourselves. If they repent, we’ll may invite them.

Now one of the reasons people are religious is because we believe religion will protect us from evil. Religion categorizes people – good verses bad; saints versus sinners. Religion excludes the bad people. Some accept bad people if they’ve proven that they’ve changed. In other worlds, religion maintains moral standards.

This type of religion creates a false narrative about God: God loves me when I am good. This is a conditional love that most of us have been raised with: “Oh, you ate all your noodles – good girl!” “Don’t draw on the wall – bad boy!” If religion is about behavior modification or regulating morality, it has been very effective. But it teaches us that God loves us only when we are good; God withholds his love when we sin. If we repent, then God loves us again. It is all about whether we do or believe rightly.

Is this the kind of God that Jesus knew? Matthew’s encounter with Jesus reveal a different kind of God. Jesus invites Matthew, a tax collector, to be his disciple. Tax collectors were despised by the Jewish people because they were seen as extortionists for the Roman Empire. Yet, Jesus wanted Matthew to be his disciple! (Matt 9:9) We soon discover that Matthew is a good networker (v. 10). He invites his friends to meet Jesus and his disciples at his home. But it just so happens that Matthew’s friends are considered sinners, the very people most of us would not want in our homes. The Pharisees, the regulator of morality of their day, pointed this out, asking Jesus’ disciples “Why does your teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” This is a reasonable question if Jesus is about elevating the morality of the Jewish people. Why would he lower himself to eat with sinners? Not a good photo op.

But it was a good opportunity for Jesus to teach us something about God’s love. In verse 12, Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick.” Jesus is teaching us the proper way to interpret the Old Testament: Sin is a health condition. The Pharisees thought it was a moral failure. Jesus explains further in verse 13: go and learn what Hosea meant when he quoted God: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’ [Hosea 6:6] Indeed, Jesus mission is not “to call the righteous, but sinners.”

What is Jesus doing? Theologically, he is introducing grace and mercy to the religion of the Pharisees. Jesus corrected them by making it very clear that God welcomes sinners. This is Jesus’ narrative, the one we need to adopt in order to truly fall in love with God. Indeed, John reinforces it in John 3:16-17. God’s love is for the whole world, not just those who think they are righteous or morally upright.

This is the reason why I hesitate to label people sinners. You may have noticed that I prefer to talk about healing a broken world. It’s not because I don’t believe that sin is real. It’s because I want to use Jesus’ true understanding of sin. Once we start listing sins and labeling sinners, what happens? We are tempted to get so worked up about labeling what people do as sin that we shun and shame them rather than show them God’s love and mercy. We elevate ourselves above them and forget that we, too, are sinners – a broken reflection of God’s image. We limit God’s love to ourselves. We turn into legalistic Pharisees. Worse of all, we forget the gospel.

Let us start with the vastness of God’s love and mercy. Let us start with the unconditional love that the God that Jesus knows reveals to the world.

Sermon Summary: God is Generous (Sept 25, 2016)

Sermon Summary • God is Generous (Psalm 23)
Rev. Dr. Milton Eng (guest speaker)

James Bryan Smith shares in his book The Good and Beautiful God that in order for us to experience true spiritual growth we must (1) replace the false narratives in our minds with Jesus’ narratives, (2) engage in the training of the soul through the spiritual disciplines and (3) practice all this in the context of community. When it comes to the theme of his chapter “God is Generous,” what is the false narrative that needs to be replaced? It is the idea of “earning God’s favor.”

When it comes to the widespread principle that to get along in the world everyone must earn their way, Asian Americans are particularly attuned to this. Although not all Asian parents are “tiger” parents, it is a cultural norm that the only acceptable way of life is to work hard, study hard and earn favor. There is a further Asian American spin on this. For many Asian Americans, the problem is not that “God is Generous” but that “God is Generous to the Wrong People” as are the workers of the vineyard who worked the least but received the same pay (Mt. 20:12). 

Regardless, any narrative of works righteousness and earning favor is a false narrative which represents one path of life based on a worldly principle . The Kingdom of God offers a second and alternative pathway, one based on “unmerited favor” and God’s generosity to all who humbly acknowledge their need. They sing with their brethren “nothing in my hands I bring, simply to thy cross I cling.” A lifetime of trying to “earn it my way” and then finally giving up and giving in to God’s sovereignty has brought to fruition the truth of Ps. 23 as so very appropriate a soul training exercise. Surely, he has “led me beside quiet waters, he has restored my soul.” He indeed “has anointed my head with oil, my cup overflows.”

milton-eng-headshot-smRev. Milton Eng (伍敬華 牧師) is a scholar, pastor, teacher and author. Born and raised in Brooklyn, NY he came to Christ in his junior year at Columbia University and has been pursuing the Lord ever since. While undertaking seminary studies at places like Biblical and Westminster he pastored various English Ministries in NY and NJ. Always wanting to get deeper into the Word, Pastor Milton completed his Ph.D. in Hebrew and Old Testament at Drew University. He is currently East Coast Project Director for ISAAC (Institute for the Study of Asian American Christianity) and recently published his first book with Zondervan entitled Devotions on the Hebrew Bible. Milton enjoys good food, conversation and tennis. He is also a long-time friend of Pastor Tim Tseng going all the way back to Tim’s days in Brooklyn!

devotions-hebrew-bible-coverDevotions on the Hebrew Bible is the companion volume to Devotions on the Greek New Testament published by Zondervan in 2012. Designed primarily for students, pastors and professors of biblical Hebrew, the book consists of 54 short devotional reflections based on a careful analysis of the original Hebrew text. These are insights which cannot be seen in any English translations. The purpose of the volume is to encourage students and pastors to keep up with their Hebrew and to observe first-hand how practical, spiritual and devotional their original language study can truly be. Bo Lim, for example, reminds the reader of the biblical precedent for expressing lament. Highlighting the intricate but beautiful Hebrew acrostic in the book of Lamentations, he confirms the principle that both grief and hope provide the rhythm of faith and worship in the life of the believer. Thirty-eight scholars from across the country and around the world contributed to DHB including such senior scholars as Dan Block and Miles Van Pelt to some up and coming writers such as Chloe Sun and Beth Stovell reflecting a diversity of contributors from ethnicity to gender. While a knowledge of Hebrew is assumed for each devotion, a standard English translation is also provided and so even laypeople without Hebrew can appreciate the exposition and application once they get past the Hebrew analysis. There is a devotional reflection on every book of the Old Testament. Hebrew word and grammatical feature indexes are provided.

Sermon Summary: God is Trustworthy (Sept. 18, 2016)

Sermon Summary
God is Trustworthy (Mark 14:32-36) • Pastor Tim Tseng

     Loving God is difficult. We may feel good about worshiping and praying to him, but to actually love him is difficult. The most typical obstacle to truly loving God is having a false understanding of who he is – a false narrative in our minds.

False Narratives about God’s Trustworthiness

     Christians believe that God is trustworthy, that he wishes us to flourish and live with purpose and joy. But too often we teach and reflect in our behavior a God who is untrustworthy. Many Christian parents, for example, will say that God is loving and good, but they model in their behavior a God who is strict and ready to correct, discipline, and punish every infraction. Kids who grow up in this environment start to develop two false narratives

1: God is not trustworthy and is more interested in punishing us than looking out for our good.

2: God the Father is a projection of our earthly fathers. For example, the woman who has difficulty calling God Father because of her own father’s abusiveness towards her. But to not call God Father is not the right answer either.

Adopting the True Narrative: Jesus called God Abba Father

     When Jesus describes God as his Father, we have to let him define what fatherhood means. Theologian Karl Barth said, “It is not that there is first of all human fatherhood and then a so-called divine fatherhood, but just the reverse is true and proper fatherhood resides in God and from this fatherhood what we know as fatherhood among us men is derived.” The Trinity (God the Father, Son, and Spirit) existed before creation. Their relationship existed before any human father and son or daughter existed. Therefore fatherhood was defined by God first.

     At Gethsemane (Mark 14:32-35), Jesus shows confidence in God’s trustworthiness in at least two ways. First, he was unafraid to confess his weakness and doubt to God. He knew that abba would hear him and not rebuke him. Second, Jesus was willing to trust God’s plan, whatever the consequences. “Not my will, but your will be done.”

     Furthermore, the Lord’s Prayer (Matthew 6:9-13) shows us a Father God who is Present, Pure, and Powerful, but also Provides, Pardons, and Protects.

What is Your Cup?

     The fact that Jesus asked to have his cup removed shows us that all of us will have to bear a cup of suffering and uncertainty in life. The “cup” represents things that are forced on us, things we have a hard time accepting. Aspects of life that make it difficult to trust God.

Soul Training: Counting Your Blessings

     Whenever we wrestle with the cup that God calls us to bear, we learn to believe in God’s trustworthiness by exercising our “muscle memory” of God’s widespread mercy. We make praise a habit. Our troubles are real, but they are small compared to God’s blessings. The more we count our blessings and live in gratitude, the easier it is to love God for his trustworthiness.

Sermon Summary: God is Good (Sept. 11, 2016)

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God is Good (Luke 22:39-46) • Pastor Chris Liu

If you have grown up in the church, you have probably heard of this call and response: “God is good! All the time! All the time! God is good!” While this is a fun saying to get people excited about God, what does it really mean that God is good? And how do we believe it when we go through difficult times in our lives?

There is a broad range of definitions for the word “good”. And God is all of those things. But, the main thing we have to remember is that we cannot separate what is good from God. You cannot have goodness without God, just as you cannot have God without goodness. God alone is good. God is the source of everything good. And we can’t fully understand true goodness without seeing it from His perspective.

This first thing that I want us to remember is that God’s character cannot change (Num 23:19; Jam 1:17; Heb 13:8). Unlike us humans who change our opinions and even our character can change, God does not change who He is. He is good all the time. Not just today or when He feels like it, but all the time. He is faithful all the time. He is loving all the time. He is just all the time. He is forgiving all the time. We can go down the list of the different characteristics of God and say that He is all those things all the time.

The second thing to remember is that God doesn’t always work in the same way we would. We live in a cause and effect society and often times we expect God to work in the same way. If we do something good, we expect God to bless us. If we sin, we expect God to punish us. Sometimes, God does this, but other times He does not. It isn’t that He is changing who He is, but that He works in ways that we don’t always understand.

There are two stories in the Bible (Luke 13:1-5 and John 9), where people were expecting Jesus to blame people’s horrible death and physical suffering due to sin. But, Jesus doesn’t do that. And the point is that just because we go through a tragedy in our lives, it doesn’t mean that God is punishing us. We aren’t always going to understand why God does what He does, so the more important thing for us to do is to trust in who He is.

Who is the God that Jesus knew and how did He experience God’s goodness? On the night before Jesus was going to be crucified, He went to the Garden of Gethsemane and prayed that God would “take away this cup” (Luke 22:39-46). Jesus didn’t want to go through with the crucifixion. He knew it would be painful and hard and lonely. But, He said, “not my will, but Yours be done.” Jesus ultimately trusted in God’s plan. And in the same way, we need to do the same.

This goes back to the first point about God being unchanging. In the middle of the difficult times in our lives, we need to hold on to the fact that God doesn’t change who He is. We can trust in His unchanging characteristic. God is still good. God is still faithful. God is still present in our lives. God is sovereign over all things. And while it is hard to hear it when we are going through difficult times, we need to believe that God can take this hardship and work it out for His glory.

God is good…all the time! All the time… God is good!

Sermon Summary: What are you seeking (Sept 4, 2016)

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What are you seeking? (1 Kings 19:9-18) • Pastor Tim Tseng • September 4, 2016

“What are you doing here, Elijah?” Elijah was in a cave, depressed, and ready to give up (v. 4) In 1 Kings 18, when tasked to confront Ahab (the king of Israel) and his wife Jezebel (the chief promotor Baal worship), Elijah found himself alone. Though he successfully defeated the prophets of Baal at Mount Carmel, Ahab and Jezebel were even more determined to kill him. So Elijah fled, hid, and was distraught.

1. “I am the only one left” – Hitting the Elijah “Wall”

In his mind, there was no hope. The king and people of Israel had abandoned God. All Jesus-followers will hit this Elijah “wall” and feel alone because the truth is that most people – even church-going Christians – are not oriented to Jesus. Most small group leaders, for example, realize that few people make commitments to the small group. Most will show up whenever it is convenient. Other things in life always become a higher priority than fellowship, learning about God’s word, growing in Christ, and serving others in Jesus’ name. Rarely will anyone want to lead (or learn how to lead) a bible study or disciple another person in the small group. All disciples will hit the “Elijah” wall.

2. Looking for God in the wind, earthquake, and fire – Distorting narratives.

Discouraged, we are tempted to de-emphasize following Jesus in order to get more people to come to our small group (or church) consistently. We might try to make small group more fun and emphasize Jesus less. Church leaders may focus on trying to keep people in church by offering more entertaining or educational programs – which are not wrong. But when we look for “big” things to validate our efforts or maintain our numbers, the cost is often permitting our people to de-emphasize following Jesus. We distort our faith narratives and our understanding of God and give today’s Baal worshipers of convenience and self-centeredness the upper hand. This is a recipe for disaster.

3. What we need: to be transformed to love God

So how can we sustain ourselves when we feel alone? How can we encourage others to turn their lives towards Jesus? The key is falling in love with the God that Jesus knows, not the God that we make up in our minds or that our society imagines. Falling in love with God requires a turning of our will towards God. But that doesn’t happen by using will-power. Rather, we have to change our minds, bodies, and social contexts – and be led by the Holy Spirit – in order to turn our wills towards God.

1. Our minds: God changed Elijah’s narrative. “You are not alone, Elijah.” Our minds can change, too. But this requires adopting Jesus’ narrative and his knowledge of God.

2. Our bodies: When bodily activities that help us turn towards Jesus are practiced regularly, we gain the “muscle memory” to be able to love God. E.g., getting enough sleep gives our minds energy to learn and love and allows us to be accountable to each other.

3. Our social contexts (community): Whether it is a one-on-one soul mentor, a small group, or Sunday worship, regular dialogue and interaction with other Jesus-followers around what we learn (mind) and what we do (body) will help us to love God more.

4. The Holy Spirit: Ultimately we need to trust in the Holy Spirit to guide and empower us.

What are we doing here? What are we seeking? Let’s seek & fall in love with God this fall!

Sermon Summary: Friendships with Non-Christians (August 21, 2016)

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Friendships with Non-Christians • Pastor Tim Tseng • August 21, 2016

Jesus, initially welcomed as a hometown hero in Nazareth, was abruptly and angrily rejected (Luke 4:22-30). Why? Because he taught that God’s grace and love extends to Israel’s enemies.

At first, Jesus’ hometown people thought that Jesus believed, as they did, that God’s promise to restore his people was only for Israel (see Luke 4:18-19).

But then Jesus shared two stories of how Israel’s most well-regarded prophets, Elijah and Elisha, ministered and helped Israel’s enemies. See Elijah and the Widow at Zarephath (1 Kings 17:7-24) and Elisha and Naaman at Aram [Syria] (2 Kings 5:1-19). By the way, Jesus later reinforces this teaching by commanding his disciples to “Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you” (Luke 6:27-36; Matthew 5:43-48)

The hometown people were enraged and tried to cast Jesus off a cliff (which he was able to avoid).

BoundedVCenteredSet.jpgSo the lesson here is that Jesus challenged the “bounded set” thinking of his own people. Christians are tempted to create boundaries between ourselves and others. Usually, the boundaries are misplaced. Instead of centering on a commitment follow Jesus, we make it easy for people to call themselves Christians (e.g., I accept Christ into my heart) and then set boundaries around behavior, language, race, culture, lifestyle, political ideology, class, etc.

As we develop friendships with non-Christians, we, too must give up our “bounded set” thinking. Instead of helping outsiders become insiders, we should be inviting our non-Christian (and even our church members) to turn their orientation towards Christ (see the “centered set” illustration). This means that we should re-prioritize what we do in church. Small groups, fellowships, Sunday school classes, indeed, any activity, should put more energy into engaging people into orienting their lives towards Christ than in trying to make them feel comfortable at Canaan.

Furthermore, when we share the gospel with non-Christian friends, we must be willing to invest time and energy to engage them on important life issues, too. Use the “four circles” approach to evangelism, not the “bridge” illustration.

Finally, our non-Christian friends ought to see how invested we are in our Christian faith. Let them see that we are committing a minimum of five hours a week outside of Sunday worship to Christian activities (e.g., studying, preparing studies, volunteering, disciple-making).

Sermon Summary: Family Friendships (August 14, 2016)

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Family Friendships (Ephesians 1:3-10) • Pastor Chris Liu • August 14, 2016

For most of our relationships, we can choose who we want to be our friends. However, we don’t have a choice about who our parents, children, or siblings are. To an extent, we don’t have a choice about who our relatives and extended families are either. Some of us may have great relationships with our family and some not so great, but God’s desire is for us to build strong friendships with our family members. Here’s how we can do it.

For children, we can build strong friendships with our parents by honoring them (Exodus 20:12). How do we do that? We can start by listening to their instruction and remembering what they have taught us (Proverbs 1:8-9). When our parents teach us, we need to really listen to and obey them. Another way of honoring our parents is to spend quality time with them and opening share with them your joys and hurts. Talk to them and get to know them. Finally, we can honor them by caring for them and providing for them.

Of course, parents need to be worthy of that honor. They need to live Christ-like lives and be teaching truth to their children. This leads me to my second point of how parents can build strong friendships with their children.

Parents can start by teaching their children God’s Word. Spend time together in the Word. Have spiritual conversations about faith and what it means to be a disciple of Christ. Instruct them in the way they should go. Another thing parents can do is to not provoke (or exasperate) their children (Ephesians 6:4). Parents can provoke/exasperate their children by overprotecting them, neglecting them, setting unrealistic goals/expectations of them, and poor discipline (too much or too little). I believe the biggest thing parents can do is to model for their children what it means to be a disciple of Christ. Kids will pick up what we think is important by how we spend our money, where we spend our time, what we emphasize as important.

There are other relationships (siblings, extended family, in-laws) that all need to be build up as well. A quick note on these relationships is that these all take time to build. Focus on the good parts. Extend grace. Forgive one another.

The last thing I want to note is that whether we have great relationships with our family members or poor relationships with them, the joy and hope we can have is that we can be a part of God’s family. in Ephesians 1:3-10, we see that God has chosen us and adopted us into His family. When we become a part of His family, we have an intimacy with Him, we have a new identity in Him, and we have an inheritance in Him. How great that is!

So let’s build up our friendships within our family and thank God for our family of origin and our spiritual family in Christ.

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